My child didn't really learn how to ride her bike until this summer, age 8.
Even with training wheels until this summer she was not comfortable. She hated the tippy feeling.
Did I push her?
No, not really. I knew in good time she would "get it" and it didn't bother her that other kids were not using training wheels. She preferred her scooter anyway.
But - if she had not liked to swim. I would have been relentless in my getting her adjusted to the water.
Why?
1) We live in Minnesota, land of 10,000 lakes and lots of pools.
2) In Minnesota everyone knows someone who has a BOAT, Pool, or lives on a lake.
3)
Need I elaborate?
I was on swim team from the time I was 11 or 12 - and I was a lifeguard, taught swim lessons for years, and coached a swim team. My GRANDFATHER was a lifeguard people...in the 1930's!
There is nothing sadder to me than someone who is afraid of the water. Yes, you need to be smart and know your limits, but afraid - and can't swim? Not an good combination. And not in my family!
Why?
Our summer is spent at a resort with several pools.
We have a hot tub on our deck.
Did I mention we also boat on our vacation?
Friends and relatives have pools and invite us over...
and its fun to go and be able to play!
Friends have boats
Friends take us tubing on their boats
Friends live on lakes - and ask us to join the fun!
Even paddleboating...
Friends have winter birthday parties at fun pools with rope swings and slides.
And we want to go and have FUN!
It never ceases to amaze me the number of children my child knows who can't swim.
Boo Boo La La could swim from the summer she was four. Obviously she wears a life jacket when called for - she is never allowed to swim without adult supervision - but!! she passed her first deep water test the winter she turned five.
And now that she is eight, it really breaks my heart when we invite a friend to go to the pool and when we pick that friend up the mother asks if their child can use a lifejacket, because "they can't really swim".
Other years I got it.
Your kid is five or six or whatever, but YOUR CHILD IS EIGHT and going into third grade and we invited you to a POOL where most of the activity requires your child to be able to swim.
And no, they don't allow you in the deep end there with a life jacket.
I realize not all adults are exactly great swimmers or love the water. But it is my plea that you get over it already. Get your child in swim lessons - get YOURSELF in swim lessons. My dad took swim lessons when he was in his 40's because he got tired of watching me in swim meets knowing he wasn't the best swimmer!
A whole WORLD of places to go and be will open up to you if you take a chance.
And if you GIVE your child the chance.
And you won't cause mother's who's children can swim to groan.
Thankfully - my child has been told, and is very polite now, that if a friend can't swim she stays with them in the area of the pool where the friend is comfortable.
If I weren't so fired up about it, we would both be good.